Love Isn’t Behind You: Why The Best Relationships Can Happen After 50

Let's talk about a fear that many of us have—the fear of getting older, and the feelings and insecurities that can come up as we think about putting ourselves out there into the dating world.

If you’re in your 50s, 60s, or beyond and feel as if your best days are behind you, well, you’re not alone. These feelings are real and valid. This is a very different time from when we were in our 20s or 30s. But we can tell you from experience that there is a new way to look at and experience this chapter of your life—one that is full of potential, possibility, excitement, and great love!

There are some remarkably great benefits to finding love at this stage of the journey. Our kids, if we have them, are likely older, giving us the time and freedom to travel and explore, or dive into new hobbies and interests. We likely have more time to work on ourselves, to explore spiritual growth and personal healing—things that enrich our lives and ultimately our relationships. We may want to experience in-depth, fulfilling conversations and experiences—especially with a partner who sees the world the way that we do.

Think of this time in your life as a new chapter in your ongoing story. Imagine a new sense of freedom and possibility, where the responsibilities or beliefs that might have once held you back or limited you are about to shift, and you now get to create and live a whole new romantic dream. Imagine for a moment the anticipation of being open to love again. Not just any love, though, but the kind of love that exceeds all of your expectations.

Of course, with this kind of possibility, there can be fear. The fear of getting hurt again is real, and we get it—there are no guarantees that a relationship will last. But if we don't put ourselves out there, both emotionally and physically, we’ll miss the opportunity to find the kind of love

we’ve always wanted—the one that IS out there for us.

If you’re reading this, it’s because you have an interest in experiencing love again, or perhaps you’re ready to have a love that's better than you’ve ever experienced or even knew was possible. Maybe you already know, deep within, that there’s more for you, and it’s that exciting possibility that has drawn you here. It is exciting! And now is the time to fully open up and invite that love in. It’s the time to manifest your greatest love ever!

We often get asked, "Where do I meet people at my age?" To that, we say the ‘where’ isn’t what’s important. The most important steps you can take to meet the perfect one for you, are as follows:

1. Begin shifting into the mindset of knowing, without a doubt, that great love is possible.  

2. Get clear on what great love means to you.  

3. Spend time daily feeling into the energy of, and imagining, every aspect of this loving relationship as if it is here and you are in it, experiencing it RIGHT NOW.

So, get excited about what is possible for you and what you truly want. We were in our mid 50s when we met, and we’re proof of the kind of love that you, yes YOU, can manifest—a love that exceeds everything you imagined possible, no matter what age you are. Age simply doesn’t matter unless you allow it to matter.

To help you get started, we created a guided meditation called "What I want in Love," that will help you get clear on what you want in love, and how to step into the space of already having it. That is where your power lies.

It’s also important to begin shifting any negative thoughts you have about yourself, others, and the world around you in regard to getting older and dating.  When any negative, self-defeating or restrictive thoughts appear in your mind, it’s time to pause and remind yourself, “I don’t allow these kinds of thoughts anymore. This is a new chapter in my life, one that is full of unlimited possibility!” It’s time to replace thoughts such as, “Men my age only want to date younger women,” with “I am overjoyed and ready to meet a genuine, amazing person who aligns with every aspect of who I am, just as I do them.”

Because, regardless of age, if you are doubting yourself—feeling like you're too old, afraid of being hurt, not gorgeous enough, etc., it’s important to note that those false beliefs create a barrier to love and all that is possible for you. So, if you are feeling this way, now is the time to begin creating the shift in your self-image and mindset. With awareness and a dedicated, conscious effort to catch yourself and reframe your thoughts about yourself and others, you will be on the path toward the love that you deserve. And trust us, you are worthy of amazing love. And remember, the perfect-for-you love is out there right now, and they are looking for you!

To your greatest love!